So I haven’t done so well on my goals this month. In my last marriage goals post, I talked about spending quality time and conversation with Pearson. I said I would put away technology when he was around. Fail. I also said in my 5 Love Languages post that I would try to have quality conversation with him every night. Fail. But this one isn’t completely my fault.

Which brings me to my next point. Pearson has been spending a lot of hours in the lab. I mean, he comes home at 9:00 or later most nights and works on the weekends. At first, I just went with it and supported him, but it is getting harder and harder to smile and be perky while I sit at home at night watching Full House or blogging or reading by myself. It is especially frustrating when we have somewhere to go and at the last minute have to back out because he can’t get away from the lab.

So I’ve decided for this month’s goal I am going to be more compassionate about Pearson’s working so much. I am going to love and support him. It’s not his fault he has to stay late. He doesn’t want to. He is stressed with classes, keeping up with lab work and getting a committee together for his candidacy exam so he can officially become a doctoral candidate and start his dissertation work. He doesn’t need a nagging, emotional and non-supportive wife on top of all that.

So starting today, before I get mad when Pearson doesn’t get home in time or feel upset when I am stuck at home by myself on a Saturday, I will step back and try to put myself in his shoes. I will stop being selfish and worrying about myself and how he’s not being sensitive to my needs. I will support him, tell him how much I appreciate him and make the most of the time we do have to spend together. And most of all, I will remember how lucky I am to have him instead of dwelling on the negative.

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