The Importance of Communication in Marriage

As I mentioned in my goals post last week, Pearson and I have been having some trouble in paradise. Part of me can’t believe I just told you all that. I’m usually a pretty private person (Though you may not believe me if you read this blog).

While I’m not going to be sharing any specific details, I do want you to know that our marriage is far from perfect. And while I’ve always known and admitted that, after the past couple months, it’s taken on a whole new meaning for us. And one thing that’s gotten us through this is knowing that other people struggle in marriage too.

So this is me telling you, you’re not alone. Marriage is hard. We’re constantly told that but I think some of us don’t believe it when we’re first getting married. But it’s true. If you’re struggling in your marriage right now, or if you have in the past, you are not alone. Reach out to me if you need someone to talk to. Please.

You know another thing that’s gotten us through this? Communication.

Communication is key. I know I’ve said this on my blog a million times, but communication is so very important in marriage. I’ve preached it over and over but I still find it so difficult to practice. I’ve always known that I struggle in this area. And I’ve always known that a lot of people struggle in this area. But I didn’t realize to what extent we struggled in this area until the last few months.

Not only have I learned how much we weren’t communicating, I also learned that once you start to communicate, the whole relationship changes. For the better.

Yeah sometimes it’s tough at first. We were suddenly being brutally honest with each other and not holding anything back. When things got heated we both said things we probably shouldn’t have (which is another issue entirely). But we were communicating. We were learning about each other. We were understanding each other, really, for the first time in our relationship. It hurt. But it was so worth it.

I love being completely open and honest with my other half and I love that he does the same with me. I regret all the years I held things back. I regret keeping things to myself. I regret not being a safe place where he could share as well.

As I said last week, we’ve still got a long way to go. But I just know that from now on, our relationship will only get better. We will be stronger for this “crisis” (for lack of a better word). We will stop taking each other for granted and we will continue to communicate no matter what.

How do you communicate in your marriage? Have you seen that it helps?
Thanks for reading!