Let me preface this post by saying that Pearson and I haven’t exactly decided whether we want to have children or not. And if we do, we haven’t fully and completely decided if we want biological children, or to adopt, or to do both.
A lot have thought, prayer, and discussion has gone into this in our relationship so far and we aren’t at a place with a solid decision yet. Part of that is because we know we don’t want to start a family until he is finished with school for sure so we don’t have to make a decision yet. And, I am glad that we have that excuse for the people who ask why we are still childless after almost 5 years of marriage.
But, the truth is, we only have that excuse for about 10 more months. I don’t think I’ve announced it on the blog yet but Pearson is graduating in December!!! That’s a long story. And one that I’m not even sure I will share on here entirely. But, at any rate, we’re almost done!!!
But I digress. What really grinds my gears is when people ask why we don’t have kids yet. First of all, that’s really a personal issue. Maybe it’s none of your business. Maybe we’re trying and it’s a very painful topic. Maybe we’re just waiting till he’s out of school. Or maybe, we just don’t want kids.
Why is it assumed that everybody wants kids 1-3 years after getting married? Why is that the norm and the standard? So much so that “Why don’t you have kids yet?” is an acceptable question. Not everybody has kids. Not everybody wants kids. That’s just a fact. And there’s nothing wrong with it. At all. It doesn’t make those people lesser people. It doesn’t make those people horrible people.
Recently, I read an article titled something to the effect of “7 Reasons Millennials are Choosing not to have Children.” I don’t remember what it was called. I don’t have a link. And I barely skimmed the article. So I’m not plagiarizing without credit. I’m just remembering back to pieces of that article for inspiration. I thought that article made some great points, but it had quite a bit of bad language so I wouldn’t want to link it anyway.
But I digress again. Let’s get to the point. Since we have some wonderful and effective forms of birth control these days, choosing not to have children is more of an option than ever before. I just wish it was also more acceptable to make that choice in today’s society. Here are some legitimate reasons for making that choice.
Table of Contents
ONE || This world is a terrible place.
TWO || You’re broke.
THREE || The world is overpopulated.
FOUR || Pregnancy is hard.
FIVE || You can barely take care of yourself.
SIX || You have an illness or condition with which you should not have children.
SEVEN || You like freedom.
EIGHT || You don’t need a reason.
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